Go Out on a Limb

There seems to be much talk these days of courage, specifically the kind of courage that it takes for me, a 67-year-old woman from New England, to up and leave home whenever the spirit moves me, for a day, a weekend or longer, taking pictures, selling work, meeting new people. What does courage mean to me, and how do I manage courage, because certainly the flip side of courage, for me, is fear. How do I practice fearlessness in the world?

For a young girl growing up in Bristol, Connecticut in the 1960s, fear commanded my life. I had great difficulty even going to the market. This fear of walking into places followed me for some time into womanhood. (The early manifestations of agoraphobia, perhaps?) Today, I can walk into rooms (virtually and otherwise), buildings, new communities, and smile, introduce myself with confidence, and extend a hand. Is that courage?

Traveling down interstate 95 south last weekend on my way to Ellis Island, with speeds of 75 miles per hour, with tractor trailers all around me, and having to pass. Is that courage?

Welcoming strangers from around the world into my home every summer as I play Airbnb superhost. Is that courage?

Learning to navigate and grow a following on a new platform like Heygo or Substack. Is that courage?

The answer to all of those questions is yes. And the only way I learned to be courageous was to practice fearlessness in all aspects of my life daily. When I learned to lead with love, courage grew exponentially.

Wherever you are today, go out on a limb, onto the limb that is your life. You don't need to travel across the country to practice fearlessness. Practice it right where you are. Do one thing today that scares you, and then do it again tomorrow.

When you lead with love, fear vanishes.

Love, 
Carol 

Wish to join me on my adventures? Now you can. Subscribe to my channel on Heygo and follow me at: https://www.heygo.com/the-footloose-muse

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Adventure is a Worthwhile Pursuit

"I don’t want to not live because of my fear
of what could happen.”
~Laird Hamilton

When you hear the word, adventure, what images come to mind? Hang gliding? Floating above the ground in a hot air balloon? White water rafting? Driving cross country in a vintage van? You needn't be Evel Knievel to live an adventurous life. For me, hopping in my car and venturing to an abandoned building photo shoot always gets my heart pumping, and just imagining air travel activates the wanderlust in me. How about you? I bet you can draw up a whole list of worthwhile pursuits. Now tell me: what's stopping you? Are you waiting for a companion? Retirement? A bigger bank account?

In the fall of 2014 when I could no longer ignore the pull to drive cross country, I knew I'd be going solo. I had a vast network of social media friends who anticipated my adventures, but along thousands of interstate miles, I was indeed alone. I also did it on a shoestring, staying at inexpensive Airbnbs along the way. Had I let fear stop me in tracks, had I doted over loneliness, over my budget, I would have denied myself a life-changing experience. To this day, when adventure calls, I don't look around to see who else might be available, I simply go!

Your turn.  

Love, 
Carol 

Wish to join me on my adventures? Now you can. Subscribe to my channel on Heygo and follow me at: https://www.heygo.com/the-footloose-muse

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Stuck?

 

"You can make excuses, or you can make yourself proud. 

You can make excuses, or you can make progress. 

You can make excuses, or you can make art."  ~Alexandra Franzen

As a creative midwife, I help women of all ages give birth to their creative ideas and dreams. I can always tell when a blog post hits home, strikes a cord, activates a nerve ending, because I'll receive emails responses heaped with excuses, explaining all the reasons why my suggestions are impossible to implement. The pushback is ego's gasp at remaining in control. The stories we tell ourselves keep us stuck. The excuses stand in the way of living a wildly creative life.

Our self-limiting beliefs hang us up all the time, and unless checked, unless challenged, these mind-numbing thoughts will keep us hamstrung to an unfulfilled life.  

Have you painted yourself into a box, into a corner? It takes enormous courage and self-awareness to pick up the pen, paper, camera, brush, music, road map. We are programmed from an early age to seek out safety, to seek out acceptance from our tribe, our family of origin. Buck the system and you may incur their disapproval. If you venture off the curb, it makes others uncomfortable because they are then forced to look at their own resistance to change. 

With nearly seven decades of experience in tow, I beg you to shake off those shackles. Dance to the beat of your own drum. Start today. The problem is we think we have time. In six months, you will either have six months of progress or six months of excuses.  The choice is yours. 

Join me Sunday, April 17 at 7:00pm EST for this week's guided Fear vs. Love meditation. Subscribe to my channel and follow me at: https://www.heygo.com/the-footloose-muse

Love, 
Carol 

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Be a Beginner Every Day

“Be willing to be a beginner every morning.” ~Meister Eckhart

When is the last time you surrendered to a new undertaking? Maybe you've always wanted to try your hand at painting or drawing or cooking or calligraphy or tarot card reading. Perhaps you'd love to learn classical dance or ballet or line dancing. Kudos to you if you've followed your heart's desire. You can stop reading.

If however, you've hesitated, been unwilling to be that beginner, let's step back and examine the self-limiting beliefs that might be holding you back, keeping your from exploring new topics, teachings, hobbies, passions, pursuits. Isn’t it ego that holds us hostage and prevents us from being vulnerable, unsure, unclear, unknowing? Don’t we all like to come to the table prepared, looking good, full of expertise, just a little bit superior to the next person? What’s it like to shed ego, to admit we have much to learn, to relinquish control of the outcome, to say, “I don’t know, but I’d like to learn. Can you teach me?”

What is your self-talk when the notion of learning something new, taking up a new hobby, changing jobs, comes up? Isn’t it fear? Fear of not hitting the mark? Fear of looking stupid? Fear of not being good enough? Fear of being too old (or too young)? 

Maybe you tell yourself starting at the beginning will simply take too long. I’ll never forget a conversation I had with an old friend a few years ago. She was lamenting the fact that he had to lose 50 pounds. I suggested a slow and steady method that worked for me. I remarked, “Very do-able! One pound a week.” She looked horrified, and remarked with great trepidation, “Oh my God, that’ll take a year!” To which I responded, “Well, yes, but that year is going to come no matter what. Wouldn’t you rather be a healthier, trimmer you at the end of that year?”

When's the last time you allowed yourself to feel deeply engaged in and committed to some new study, activity, class, course, series, something that excites you, fills you with unbridled enthusiasm?

Intrigued? (Maybe just a little?) Join me this Sunday night, April 10, at 7:00pm EST and I'll lead you on a Be Willing to Be a Beginner guided meditation journey. You'll have a chance to conjure up in your mind’s eye, something, a pursuit, a teaching, an interest, something that you would love to undertake, but have hung back on out of fear.

If not now, when?

See you Sunday night. Subscribe to my channel and register  at: https://www.heygo.com/the-footloose-muse

Love, 
Carol 

Know anyone that would benefit from our community of like-minded female creatives?  Invite them to join the Footloose Muse Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefootloosemuse